Year 2021

2021! Penning down this blog post brought such bittersweet memories. 

It's been a year guys. A year filled with roller coaster of emotions and a good number of occurrences. 

I went through a lot this year, bad and good. I cried and was frustrated a lot. Laughed so little in compensation for all the anger, tears and frustration. I felt lonely and I felt full. I ate a lot of ice cream no thanks prestige igando (*eye roll). I ate good food. I explored life a little. I discovered a few things about myself that make me question myself as a person and as a unit in the world, question who I am as a single spinster, who I will be as a parent and even as I get older. 

Like I said, a year! 

In today's article, I want to first say hi to you all and to apologize for my absence. I know I said bi-weekly but truthfully, life happened (I do promise to post consistently from here on out). Trying to balance a lot and failing miserably at some of them is to blame for being separated from you guys for a long time. 

I also want to use this medium to shout out 2021 for being a teacher and whooping my butt when i chose to overlook some of her lessons. 

Last but definitely not least, I am thanking God man! Nothing could have been done without him. 

Now that that's out of the way, let's get into today's business. Most of you that follow me on IG and on this blog (if you don't, you should) definitely know that I clocked 20 this year and sincerely, anya m hụrụ ihe. 

Me thinking that some humans could be sensible, me thinking that Nigeria is a country (in the mud!), me thinking that I will be a millionaire by twenty driving assorted cars. Lol! I am pretty sure asuu strike and covid 19 laughed in my face and said "ah this girl has ball oo, let's combine power" LoL! Lori iro!! Cos my balls are staying and I will be chilling with soon! 

All in all, being an adult isn't all it's cracked up to be, abeg. This thing is tiring. It's literally waking up everyday and praying you don't snap! 

Anyways, enough with my sappy story, okay. Let's end this year on a good note. Let's end the year with gratitude and thanks giving. 

I want you to do me a favour right now (it's for your own good oo lol). Take out a journal or paper and pen (or your phone, whatever works for you) and write. Write out all you can remember from this year. How did the year turn out for you? Your health? Your family? What did you plan for and what didn't you expect? 

This isn't about checking your last year's resolutions, this is about appreciating yourself and being proud of how you've handled the year. I know I am not the only one who's had 'a year'. I know I am not the only one who's felt frustrated, angry, happy or joyful. 

Once you've written them down, I want you to look through them word for word and thank yourself (and God). For not giving up on yourself and not letting what you've heard or saw on the news, from friends, bullies or anywhere, not letting how you felt in moments you weren't your best limit you. 

This is one way to ensure we end this year on a good note because writing them down helps us reminisce, reminds us of memories forgotten, helps us understand our feelings in those moments and work through them better, helps us live properly. This in turn helps us to truly see what we've survived and be grateful for it. 

I sincerely hope this works out for you. 

Reach out if you want to talk and leave a comment if you found this helpful. 

Happy holidays.